Reading a poem

 
It’s Ross Gay
monologuing a white woman on Black
masculinity, and she's asking questions between accusations.
Seems a Black friend’s dating this particular white woman,
and it's boiled down to black and white as Ross sees it.
Ross says she says: “Ive seen you dance” to his Black friend,
and it wasn’t pretty.
Ross Gay has a Black friend who isn’t funky, who’s a bad
dancer dating a white woman who asks too many questions.

says:  you just as soon date a Black chick.
says:  just as soon eat pussy.

(I'm trying to understand the inclusion of this term as it's used here.

The juxtaposition of Black masculinity to eating pussy.

Is this still the needling white woman, or is Gay inserting

himself into the monologue?) Anyway,

after the reading I took to considering my history with
white women as a white man, the kinds of questions they’d ask
during certain contentious situations, of how I might’ve replied
to their findings, of how each of them stood their ground
to my counterattacks, but–– It’s not the same. It’s never the same.

Can’t be. It's boiled down to black and white.  But––

 
the unresolved situation regarding Ross Gay’s
"Black friend," and his caustically curious "white woman" would,
more likely than not, except for the pussy part, seem unfamiliar to me.